Well yes. I try to get to the hiring managers. It's not easy and involves a lot of phone calls and building relationships. Going through dice and other popular forums leads to 45/hour nonsense. I don't know how others do it but I haven't found any shortcuts and haven't been all that successful other. I don't know what obvious steps I am missing.
Occasionally I have found potentially paying stuff through Craigslist and on forums like this one. A lot of one-off needs will advertise cheaply and in funky places.
A few thoughts:
What kinds of companies have you looked at? Smaller companies may be more haphazard (treat people badly, etc) but they don't have the degree of hurdles to getting hired that are found at larger places.
Get a resume online on a web site. It will get indexed. I have gotten several paying gigs through mine when someone Googled it. You have to offer something unique.
Do you have a certain specific product, or technical specialization? Suppose I know about low level VOIP implementation and networking implementation. I will probably try contacting equipment vendors and companies that have products that use this technology as an embedded piece.
Hell, I have no idea why you are so commoditized. Do you? Do you have any suspicions why you may look to employers a whole lot like a bunch of other developers?
If I think for one second that I closely resemble some unwashed bunch of yahoos, I get really angry.. with myself, with the others, and with whoever is saying that I am just like everyone else. And I do something to change things.
Do you have good social skills (seriously)? Do others like to talk to you? It really helps. People like to talk to me. Maybe not here very much....

kidding.
In general, for me this is like trying to tell someone else how to ride a bike. I don't know, you just
ride. You don't ask questions beyond "how do I get on"? You don't look to others to show you. You figure it out on your own. You wobble. Eventually it works.
Sorry, maybe this isn't helping. Applying across the country as you're thinking sounds extremely risky, stressful, high stakes, and like trying to escape reality. Frankly.
(Even though I'm probably coming off as a complete pr!ck, I am really trying to give you feedback that I would give a friend who is astray.)